One of the topic request to be discuss is my blog is about CON-FI-DENCE. It’s a topic that has been requested a lot of time on me since.. a long way back in time. From many people. But I took it seriously, I don’t want to freely discuss this by just ranting about myself without any point that can help people out there who reads this. I really afraid if I didn’t bring any good for you, regarding this topic.

If you feel you don’t have naturally occurred self-confidence, don’t feel small, because confidence actually come either intrinsically or extrinsically. It is a fact. It is normal not to have confidence naturally because it is rather rare. It can only happen in 1 out of 10 people. That’s what we call, intrinsic confidence. While extrinsic confidence, where we need some more practice and assurance from our environment, people, and the success. In simple word, intrinsic confidence, they don’t need that. But both, are same.

But people with intrinsic confidence, they tend to fall into a trap known as Dunning-Kruger Effect or cognitive bias. They tend to think they perform competently, when they are not. I do have this experience, which was during my first job interview. It was kind of mind blowing, I thought I did good, then it turned out I didnt get that job. When I prepared for my second job interview, I started to reflect myself and detected all the flaws that I've done during the first, like now you-see-how-you-look-very-not-so-intelligent-during-that-interview ? Ha ha.

DISCLAIMER: I really hope and want this to motivates and helps you in any ways that is possible and not to brag about myself.

CONFIDENCE IN INTERVIEW/PRESENTATION/CONVERSATION

Since my debate and public speaking old days, the key is always Practice. My inner self confidence is not everything. Maybe its just, 1/3 of the whole process, If you are confident, but you are talking rubbish, people can see that. Practice the script, the tone on how to convey the presentation, and I always ask people whether they understand what I talk, then make improvement. Every night before presentation, I’m going to have sleepless night, revise the points till fall asleep, and wake up with anxiety. When you’ve practice, the confidence will come along and boost the result. I even done a job interview without practicing, and I messed up. I got my lesson.

Predict what question to be ask prior to your interview or presentation really totally helps. For me, it makes me think deeper about the topic, and thus makes me understand better, and highlight which part I actually didn’t cover yet so I have to read on it. And, it helps us to think on how to manipulate answer that we already have in hand. Save time.

CONFIDENCE IN LIFE

I don’t know how much I need to stresss this out. Love yourself.  And I love myself. When you love yourself, you will do all kind of good things in the world FOR YOU. Not for anyone else. I feel motivated to workout and have a long run to get that body goal because I love myself, start my online business because it is my passion, helping people get that confidence by achieving confident look with SKYVOILE and I want to get the best out of it. Do love yourself, and things around you will start to revolve.

I TOTALLY understand how our social media makes us dictate our life right now. Make us tend to compare ourselves with others’ life. Including me. I am at kind of lower point of life right now, I’m waiting to get driving license to start working while some of my friend already start working life. So, then I start to create my OWN LIFE: working harder on SKYVOILE, spending quality time with family, and do some life changes. And one thing that I believe, is every single person in this world, has their own extra ability, there’s always something new I can learn from you and anyone. So, Find or create your extra ability, gain the confident in yourself, the world always needs differences.

3. Trust His Plans
Sometimes I find this hard too. I have to mention the common sayings like, 'Dont conpare your life with others' 'Comparison is the thief of happiness' However, it is a hard truth. Always always trust His plans, and Allah is plannig the best for you. Then, you will be confident, and not afraid to face anything in this world, except being afraid of Allah.

While those are my personal advises and opinions from the not-so-professional-me, here I found a useful article from Forbes that reaallyy convey the practical way on how to gain confidence, and some points that I may not able to convey purrrfectly.

https://www.forbes.com/2011/06/10/confidence-boosting-dos-and-donts_slide.html#41a3fd161251

What I always said to myself, 'Just do it, people memories wont last anyway. They'll forget.'

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