One of the topic request to be discuss is my blog is about
CON-FI-DENCE. It’s a topic that has been requested a lot of time on me since..
a long way back in time. From many people. But I took it seriously, I don’t want
to freely discuss this by just ranting about myself without any point that can
help people out there who reads this. I really afraid if I didn’t bring any
good for you, regarding this topic.
If you feel you don’t have naturally occurred self-confidence,
don’t feel small, because confidence actually come either intrinsically or
extrinsically. It is a fact. It is normal not to have confidence naturally
because it is rather rare. It can only happen in 1 out of 10 people. That’s
what we call, intrinsic confidence. While extrinsic confidence, where we need
some more practice and assurance from our environment, people, and the success.
In simple word, intrinsic confidence, they don’t need that. But both, are same.
But people with intrinsic confidence, they tend to fall into a trap known as Dunning-Kruger Effect or cognitive bias. They tend to think they perform competently, when they are not. I do have this experience, which was during my first job interview. It was kind of mind blowing, I thought I did good, then it turned out I didnt get that job. When I prepared for my second job interview, I started to reflect myself and detected all the flaws that I've done during the first, like now you-see-how-you-look-very-not-so-intelligent-during-that-interview ? Ha ha.
But people with intrinsic confidence, they tend to fall into a trap known as Dunning-Kruger Effect or cognitive bias. They tend to think they perform competently, when they are not. I do have this experience, which was during my first job interview. It was kind of mind blowing, I thought I did good, then it turned out I didnt get that job. When I prepared for my second job interview, I started to reflect myself and detected all the flaws that I've done during the first, like now you-see-how-you-look-very-not-so-intelligent-during-that-interview ? Ha ha.
DISCLAIMER: I really hope and want this to motivates and
helps you in any ways that is possible and not to brag about myself.
CONFIDENCE IN INTERVIEW/PRESENTATION/CONVERSATION
1. 1. Practice practice practice
Since my debate and public speaking old days, the key is
always Practice. My inner self confidence is not everything. Maybe its just,
1/3 of the whole process, If you are confident, but you are talking rubbish,
people can see that. Practice the script, the tone on how to convey the presentation,
and I always ask people whether they understand what I talk, then make
improvement. Every night before presentation, I’m going to have sleepless
night, revise the points till fall asleep, and wake up with anxiety. When you’ve
practice, the confidence will come along and boost the result. I even done a job
interview without practicing, and I messed up. I got my lesson.
2. 2. Prepare for possible questions and answers.
Predict what question to be ask prior to your interview or
presentation really totally helps. For me, it makes me think deeper about the
topic, and thus makes me understand better, and highlight which part I actually
didn’t cover yet so I have to read on it. And, it helps us to think on how to manipulate
answer that we already have in hand. Save time.
CONFIDENCE IN LIFE
1. 1. Love yourself. Have a positive self-concept.
I don’t know how much I need to stresss this out. Love
yourself. And I love myself. When you love yourself, you will do all kind of
good things in the world FOR YOU. Not for anyone else. I feel motivated to
workout and have a long run to get that body goal because I love myself, start
my online business because it is my passion, helping people get that
confidence by achieving confident look with SKYVOILE and I want to get the best out of it. Do love
yourself, and things around you will start to revolve.
'When you really like yourself in a particular role, you perform at your best in that role. The more you like yourself, the more you like other people. The more you like other people, they more they like you in return. They are generally happier and more fulfilled than people who dont like themselves very much'
The Psychology of Selling-Brian Tracy
2. 2. Find or Create your OWN Life
I TOTALLY understand how our social media makes us dictate
our life right now. Make us tend to compare ourselves with others’ life.
Including me. I am at kind of lower point of life right now, I’m waiting to get
driving license to start working while some of my friend already start working
life. So, then I start to create my OWN LIFE: working harder on SKYVOILE,
spending quality time with family, and do some life changes. And one thing that I
believe, is every single person in this world, has their own extra ability, there’s
always something new I can learn from you and anyone. So, Find or create your
extra ability, gain the confident in yourself, the world always needs differences.
3. Trust His Plans
Sometimes I find this hard too. I have to mention the common sayings like, 'Dont conpare your life with others' 'Comparison is the thief of happiness' However, it is a hard truth. Always always trust His plans, and Allah is plannig the best for you. Then, you will be confident, and not afraid to face anything in this world, except being afraid of Allah.
While those are my personal advises and opinions from the
not-so-professional-me, here I found a useful article from Forbes that reaallyy
convey the practical way on how to gain confidence, and some points that I may
not able to convey purrrfectly.
What I always said to myself, 'Just do it, people memories wont last anyway. They'll forget.'
QOTD: Should I start vlog? comment below! haha
